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How we treat ourselves in difficult moments says a whole lot about who we are. It’s easy to be on top of the world when things are going right and we want to hold on to the feeling hoping it is going to last forever. Yet when it does not, it feels like we’re bound to train tracks using an oncoming train headed our way and not able to move.
How we behave towards ourselves in our darkest moment’s lays the basis for who we become later on. Self-love is a tricky concept for many to grasp. I’ve had innumerable coaching sessions with individuals who find it hard to love and love themselves. They become entrenched into our psyche and nervous system and, if reinforced, are difficult to give up. However, difficult does not mean impossible.
Is this something you’ve experienced? By way of instance, how can you treat yourself when things don’t go your way? When your significant other breaks up with you or your health or finances endure. What is your inner dialogue during those times? I have experienced pain and suffering throughout my life in the form of losing my father to disease, a relationship break up, a health crisis and fiscal woes. There were times I found it hard to appreciate myself because of the despairing inner dialogue that convinced me it was my fault for being in this circumstance. I felt stuck, helpless and hopeless to navigate my way out.
It is why I wrote my first book because it was a theme I had been intimate with and new well. However, I recognized that being trapped in my situation wasn’t who I am. It was not the narrative I wished to live, nor succumb to. I knew somewhere deep inside me there was a presence yearning to express itself but I did not know how to get in contact with it. I wanted to love and nurture myself with compassion instead of negative self-talk. Gradually, I noticed my conditions started to shift and my internal dialogue changed when I started meditating. I was an anxious person then, but this shifted to a calm and peaceful person over the next several years. I dared to go deep into my being and connect with all the love inside me.
Breaking Down The Old And Tired Ways Of Living
The love within us expects you to come home to it. It’s your palace of refuge, a place that knows no boundaries, other than to receive you in its arms and awaken you to your authentic self. The self-love I speak of begins by recognising that difficult moments don’t last. To love yourself through difficult times when there’s minimal growth requires you hope that what is happening is doing this to help you let go of the ruins of the past. It’s breaking down the tired and old methods of living a new foundation of strength and love can emerge from your authentic self.
The spiritual teacher and writer Matt Kahn offers us the wisdom in his book What’s Here to Help You: A Loving Guide for Your Soul’s Evolution that love is more than an emotion but a wellspring of compassion that resides within us and our task would be to bring it forth:”From a spiritual perspective, love isn’t an emotion we feel all the time. Love is an unwavering depth of compassion and empathy that reaches inward to adopt our experiences-no matter how mixed up, shut down, unfulfilled, or overwhelmed we are inclined to be. When rooted in the vibration of love, we don’t need to be completely treated to bring forth the kindness and care that already dwells within us.”
There is a source of love within you that beckons you to connect with it. Don’t take my word for it since it appears on your screen. Unite with this loving presence by standing before a mirror and reciting the words:”I love you” the moment you finish reading this article. Recite them as frequently as you can because you are outside conditions don’t have to dictate the way you love yourself. The love I speak of is there waiting for you to come home to it. The more you connect with this infinite presence, the greater it’ll be known throughout your life. The way we treat ourselves through hard times says a lot about who we are because who we are is a power of love. If we make time to get in touch with this presence more frequently, we’ll realise that our difficulties serve a purpose; to return us to the wholeness of our authentic self.
When There’s Little Growth

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